church life · family · kidmin

Too Quick to Discipline?

I used to work at a preschool many years ago. Lauren was a full-day child... and she just had the hardest time waking up and getting herself going after nap time. I remember subbing in her class one day... and after the lights came back on and we woke up all the kids, Lauren just… Continue reading Too Quick to Discipline?

family ministry · kidmin

why I don’t resolve every conflict for kids…

Last week, I blogged about why I don't make kids say sorry.  We don't merely want to teach kids behavior, rather we want them to know how their actions affect other children and help kids grow in their spiritual formation even through conflict.  Similarly, I also don't come to rescue every child who is upset… Continue reading why I don’t resolve every conflict for kids…

family ministry · kidmin

Why I Don’t Make Kids Say Sorry…

Whenever I talk about discipline in my children's ministry workshops, I share that I don't ever MAKE kids say sorry.  Of course, I get few "are you crazy?" looks from parents and other children's workers.  The reason?  Well, consider following scenarios: a boy bites a girl; he says "sorry"; she cries; he hits her again;… Continue reading Why I Don’t Make Kids Say Sorry…