It’s been awhile since I’ve blogged… Life has been pretty busy, to say the least… I feel like I’ve been on a roller coaster ride for the past several months! And yes, I’ve been feeling like I’m taking crazy pills (remember this from Zoolander?)
If you’ve been around me lately, you have probably heard me say this a lot! I have always struggled with my identity growing up. Trying to fit in when you’re not part of the majority has not been easy. When I was the only asian girl in my elementary school in Kansas, I desperately wanted to wake up one morning with blonde hair and blue eyes. When I moved to Los Angeles and found myself among other Korean-Americans that looked like me, I realized I was very different from them but desperately tried to fit in by acting like them. When I found myself in the midst of Korean-American Christian community in college, I struggled to fit the cookie cutter mold of what I perceived to be the perfect Korean-American Christian girl. I was pretty lousy fitting into that mold, although I’ve always been really good at faking it!
In my late 30s, I no longer care about fitting into a mold. I just want to be the best ME that God made me… I thought that would be easy, but I’m learning that it’s not easy being me (I’m sure Kermit the Frog can relate). It’s not easy being me because I don’t fit in any mold that has been expected of me (for the most part). I’m coming to terms with the fact that I don’t think like a typical Korean-American, a typical Christian, nor even a typical girl (I guess that’s why I’ve been considered one of the guys most of my life–which is NOT a compliment to a girl nevertheless)! People tell me that’s what makes me unique and that’s what makes me ME… but when I see people giving me crazy looks after I open my mouth, all I’m thinking is “I feel like I’m taking crazy pills.” Thankfully, I have met some kindred spirits along the way… but for some reason, God has not placed me with my kindred spirits currently… so right now, I’m learning. I’m learning to be patient. I’m learning to communicate in ways that people understand. I’m learning to hold my tongue. I’m learning to show mercy. I’m learning to be kind. I’m learning to forgive. I’m learning to love. I’m learning to trust in God’s leading. I’m learning to feel normal even when I feel like I’m on crazy pills.